Tuesday, February 26, 2008

life.....

I have new previews from over two weeks ago... but that is the last on my priority list right now.....

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LIFE.....

enjoy it, live it, love it........and be prepared for life's unexpected bumps

I have been away from the digiworld for most of the last two weeks because of a very unfortunate situation.....
on the 11th, my ex-husband suddenly passed away...he was the father to my oldest son (Cooper, 17)..... Coop came home from school and found him on the kitchen floor...he had already been gone for about 2 hours, most likely due to a heart attack.................
he worked out that morning, went home for a conference call (he was in outside sales), told his boss he was freezing (so not him) and was going to lay down, shortly afterwards he went to the kitchen and passed before he made it to the ground

I am very grateful that Phil, Cooper, and Sarah (Phil's wife/Coop's step-mom) had a nice family day together the day before (the first one in a very long time...they went to a boat show & out to dinner, then Phil took Coop to school the next morning and the last thing he said was that he loved him

everything has been one very surreal rollercoaster

it has also been a lesson for so many of our friends and family........
*please never lose touch with your friends... call your friends now if you haven't talked with them in a while
*have an estate plan ... please make a will and pick the guardian(s) for your children
*make sure you have a nice life insurance policy
*make sure that at least your spouse and/or other trusted family member knows about important papers
*don't take life for granted....live it to the fullest........... that is one thing that Phil definitely did
*give hugs freely ... brighten people's days

The Cooper Williams Scholarship Fund
c/o The 1st National Bank
12230 Manchester Road
St Louis, MO 63131
314-862-8300

this is labeled a scholarship fund on the account name only... it is a full trust fund for him............ there are two golf tournaments in the works, as well as another fundraiser in St Louis

for those of you that don't know... Cooper's dad stepped up to become a full-time dad when I moved to Phoenix a few years ago...... he only has 2.5 months left in high school before he graduates...... there was no way on earth I could have pulled him from his friends, hockey, and life there to come back with me....... it's the hardest thing in the world to not be with him every day..so much more so than ever before... at least I have the comfort of know that he has a huge support system there with his family and friends and his step-mom (she's only been his step-mom for 2.5 years) wants to continue with him ....... we all have a very good relationship, just the distance is difficult.....but I have 2 little boys here that I have to take care of too

also...... Cooper and Sarah have already started seeing a special trauma therapist


7 comments:

AngFab said...

SO VERY SORRY for you loss...it really puts things into perspective, doesn't it? Big hugs for Cooper and your whole family.

Monique said...

Oh Sara I'm so sorry for your family's lost! It's good that there were no unresolved issues and that you all have such wonderful memories to remember him by. hugs!

thumper6423 said...

So sorry for your family's loss. My thougths are with you and yours at this time. You have reminded us of some great life lessons not to forget.

AfriDigiDiva said...

That's a wonderful message. More people need to remember that all we have is today, this moment, NOW. Thank you for the reminder.

Madae said...

I'm so sorry for this tragedy! How awful for Cooper to be the one to find his dad. My heart goes out to you all. {{{HUGS}}}

Amy said...

Awww, Sara, big hugs... I will keep praying for your family.

Fantacy so Sweet-n-Stuff... said...

oh sara, I am praying for all of you, but esp for Cooper...what a hard time in life to lose your father, when you are just becoming a man yourself. and thank you for your reminder of letter people know we love them :) HUGE hugs!

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